Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Good-bye FEAR

FEAR: An emotion everyone at some point in their lives has felt and dealt with.

We can try to hide from our fears or refuse to acknowledge them for awhile, but it won't be long before they sneak back in, surprising us when we least expect it.

FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real

Fear is a good emotion when used as it was intended-to keep us safe from physical harm. But somewhere along the line, it turned into an emotion we let rule over us at times. The fear of the unknown is brutal. The fear of failure paralyzing. The good news?

We can overcome fear!

We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, don't sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
Dale Carnegie

Don't let the fear of striking out hold you back.
Babe Ruth

I for one struggle with doubts and the fear of failure and I've had some pretty hard hits lately. There are so many ready and waiting to tell us why we can't or shouldn't do something. I have no idea what pleasure they get out of destroying someone else's dreams, but I think it has alot to do with their own fears and inabiltiy to deal with them.

A new strategy to overcome and move past this fear?

Simply step out boldly, knowing that we are in control of our own destiny. We get to make the decisions that affect us and our dreams. We get to decide on our own time frame. We are the only ones who know what works for us and what doesn't. A direction or route that worked for one person, may not for another, and it's okay. Successful people step out in faith and confidence in their own abilities. They don't let the criticism of others alter their paths.

They've figured out the secret to happiness.  

Do what you love and love what you do! :)

The last paragraph from a school essay my middle daughter wrote recently says it all.

"It is important to be who you want to be. Do what you want to do. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

Wise words from a sixteen year old, don't you think? LOL
I think I'll go hug her now! :)



Suzan Harden said...

Good words from a good kid who has a great mom!

Hang in there. Don't listen to the naysayers. They generally have no f***ing idea what they're talking about anyway. I know you're an excellent writer Missy. Just keep churning out the words because I can read your books faster than you can write them!

Marie said...

Hi, Melissa
I just saw a movie based on famed actress and screenwriter, Ruth Gordon, She was determined to be an actress..nothing could stop her. with a little money and aid from her father she pursued her dream. One of her quotes is "never give up and don't face the consequences." I know that that you can pursue your dream, also. Never give up, Melissa!

Melissa said...

Gosh, Suzan. Thanks so much for your kind words! I've got my earplugs in and determination on high. :)

Melissa said...

Marie, I'll have to look that movie up. :) Thank you! I've got this quote printed and taped next to my desk, "Never Give up and Never Surrender!" I just forget to look at it sometimes. LOL